I don't call myself a Feminist anymore, because I have seen how people misuse and abuse this term.
A lot of times, women and women group confuse it with female chauvinism. I have seen women misusing 'freedom' and 'choice' in the name of feminism; their choices should be respected, but if the man chooses to do the same - he should be judged.
If both genders are equal - then how can only one gender demand special rights and privileges?
There are countless such examples:
- If a woman slaps a man - he deserved it. But if a man slaps a woman - he is monster.
- If a woman abandons her children, it was her choice and she demands respect for it - but if a man abandons his children - he should be punished.
- If women have extra marital affair - it is their privilege, but if the man has an extra-marital affair - he is a male chauvinist pig.
The term feminism is often abused by women when they demand certain special rights - even while they claim they are equal. For these reasons, it is often misunderstood by men also.
When I had first heard of this term 'feminism', I was an adolescent. I remember even then, I had wondered - why this terminology was accepted by any sane person?
If people want to fight the patriarchy in the contemporary society, and demand equal rights for both genders, then the movement should be called 'Equalism' or simply human rights movement - because both genders suffer from stereotypes in patriarchy.
Patriarchy rules often tend to create suffocating roles for both men and women – men can’t cry, men shouldn’t be emotional, men cannot take care of children, men cannot love a child more than a woman, men should not take care of household chores, men should earn insane amount of money, man should be physically strong, men who dance are gay – there are endless examples of strict patriarchal effect men’s happiness and limits their growth as human being.
Both feminine and masculine qualities in a human being need to be equally respected. But they way ‘Feminism’ is used – I don’t see that happening.
Neither gender is superior, both genders have their own set of weaknesses and strengths. I am for equal human rights, I am against special privileges to either gender.
I have realized that one cannot fight patriarchy effectively by female chauvinism, and hence I am not a 'Feminist' anymore.